Video: Taiye Selasi: "Don't Ask Where I'm From, Ask Where I'm Local". TEDGlobal 2014 · 16:31 · Filmed Oct 2014.Do you struggle with that question: "Where are you from?"
Growing up overseas brings an interesting dilemma on how to answer that simple question. My children - Third Culture Kids from the start - responded from early days with "it's complicated - do you want the long or short answer?"
Taiye Selasi broaches this subject and introduces a new concept and way of thinking towards this quandary. Taiye points out that all experience is local, and as such she is multi-local not
Chaotic packing days can be a thing of the past. If you follow these top 5 preparation tips.
You have your date that the packing team will arrive. For insurance reasons, you are not allowed to pack. So it’s time to put your feet up right?
The secret to packing well for a jump overseas is Preparation, Preparation, Preparation.
Yes, the removals team will pack everything for you, but they will not know what goes with what, where you will want things or if something is special.
So follow my five top tips to set up your move to be as smooth as possible. Good
"Expat Isolation is a reality at the start of any international assignment, make sure that you make it disappear as fast as possible. Use my tips on how to cure expat isolation." - Susanna, owner Jump Overseas. So you’ve packed up your bags, your life, your family and moved abroad. All your support networks have stayed in the home country. You know no-one at the new location. You feel lonely and isolated. Expat Isolation has hit. Your partner is off to work everyday, so has interaction with others but still is not gaining friends to relax with. It’s tough starting anew in a new place.
To complement these Top 10 Tips to Help Children Say Goodbye, also check out my 7 Family Dinner Questions to have before you move.
Bon Voyage!Moving abroad is tough at the best of times, as adults moving alone it is a great adventure to be embarked upon. But when you have children there are so many extra concerns to take into account. The adventure is no longer about you as part of a couple but how you will be as a family. My Top 10 Tips to Help Children Say Goodbye will help you through as a family to say farewell to one location and hello to the next. As Ruth Van Reken and David Pollock
Using these 7 family dinner questions in the weeks before you move will help open up the worries, concerns and excitement that the whole family is feeling for the upcoming move.Work through these 7 questions over dinner with your children about the 'Upcoming Move'. I can guarantee some lively and insightful conversations that will help you all understand where the rest of the family is at. Make sure each family member gets equal chance to answer. Parents and children alike, but try and get the children to start as younger children are more likely to reflect the parents point of view as they
Hugs, Understanding and Action Plans are the fall back all all moving stress.It is a tough time of year.
The end of the school year and raw feelings are rising.
Moves are looming and goodbyes are not far off. It is tough on adults but tougher on kids. There is no easy way to transition. There are tools that you can use but ultimately the tears will fall as the realisation dawns that life is about to change.The Quote in the photo I have shown above comes from the fictional character Peter Pan.
"never say goodbye, because saying goodbye means going away, and going away means
What to expect ... when relocating with kids is a whistle-stop outline.. If you want to read some more about how the areas of Friendship, Learning a language, Emotions and Schooling can affect your Expat Child then read Is there a better age for children to move abroad?Childhood can be split up into about 5 groups of ages, here is a quick run down as to What to Expect... when relocating with kids with a child in these age groups:
Babies and Toddlers
Keep their routine and favourite toys close by and they adapt the easiest as family is their world. They challenge your energy levels, but this
Is there a better age for children to move abroad? No, there is no definite answer to this as every age brings it's own challenges. However I do feel it is more complicated to move with older children as schooling and friends are more important in their lives. My experience so far and talking with clients, is that a move with children 5 and under is by far the easiest.I have been asked if I think there is a better age for children to move abroad. If you had a choice that is. Often you don't of course, but this blog may give you an outline of how your children may react to the challenges ahead.
You have said yes to the move.
But what have you said 'Yes' to?
There is excitement that you feel now, and it is well worth taking 5 to record these feelings and thoughts. The answers will help you through the tougher settling in times.
If you always keep your phone with you - write the answers electronically so you can easily refer to add to them in the future.
If you are a paper lover, take each numbered question, place it at the top of a blank page and leave space to note answers and feelings underneath. Keep these papers in with your important documents. Make a note on your calender
One of the hardest elements of a move to a new country to cope with is managing expectations. Of your own, your immediate family on the journey with you, your friends and family back home, and new friends.
This is where you need to fill in the gap between reality and fantasy. Any move is fuelled by a buzz of adrenalin which combines excitement for adventures ahead and nervousness about whether it will pan out.
For those you are leaving behind and have never taken the leap it is easy for them to see your move through rose-tinted glasses, which so will you at the start. But these rosy
So off you go to a new country. Cars are part of life for most people, especially if you have a family when you need to get to places that are not accessible by public transport. But once you’ve learnt to drive in one country, it’s all much of a muchness right? The side you drive on can change which is a clear and straightforward thing to learn - you just have to get used to going to the other side of the car and reaching for your seatbelt on the opposite side - but that is relatively easy to change. If you are American, and coming from the land where automatic cars are King, a
Talking with a friend today who is a new expat in the area, it made me remember the trials and tribulations of shopping for the first time in a new country. Something so simple and taken for granted in your home country becomes a huge multi-week expedition when you are in a new country. The first weeks of any assignment start with an enormous amount of time spent in stores and spending money to set up your new life. If that country also has a language that is new to you, then double that time.
Media often talks of the global spread of commerce and yes, it is true that there are international
A key to any move overseas is to learn the local language. It is very hard to feel settled until daily interactions in the local language are possible. Very few people are born with a ‘language’ gene - everyone has to work at learning a language but it is true that once you have one foreign language, others are easier to pick up.
There are apps out there that help, as mentioned in this article. Microsoft has announced they're developing a real-time translator that will allow people from different languages to communicate across Skype. See a preview of this technology here. But nothing
"Wherever you go, go with all your heart."It is very important before you move abroad to consider how the change will affect your life, and whether you will be happy with those changes.
Making a jump overseas is not for everyone, but anyone can do it with the right mind set. I recommend that you download, print out and complete my Top 10 Pre-Move Expat Questions worksheet. Complete this on your own, and also let your partner fill it in. Compare your results. Are they aligned? Any differences in opinion between you and your partner are better discussed openly at the start of an assignment
For many families, their pets are an important part of their family and when the decision comes to relocate overseas, then that often means their pets too. Dogs and cats travel the most, but other animals can be relocated too, but it is important to think about all the stresses on the animal itself as well as the costs involved when moving your pets.
A good starting point on research is to know where you are going and what your budget is as not everyone is lucky enough to have a business employer willing to cover costs to relocate family pets. Deciding to find a new owner for your pet(s) is a
iTranslate is the most popular translation app for smart phones and tablets, and rightly so. It does what it says on the label. It is very user friendly and giving the pronunciation as well as the word is extremely useful.
Over 80 different languages are supported, but it does require 3G or Wifi connection to work. There are voice input and output features where you can select between different dialects of the same language and even control the speaking rate in the premium, paid version of the app. Personally I just stick with the free version and so far that has met my needs. I can see
Peter Adler (1975) created a model of culture shock that many feel is an accurate representation. I will go further into this in a separate post, but the stages are:
It will take over a year to progress through these stages as you settle in a new place, and every family member will hit different stages at different times. To learn more about these stages read the article about The Expat Curve and Culture Shock.
This website is designed to aid you make the jump overseas far more enjoyable and informed. Check out my relocation
The Expat Curve Video describes in just over 3 minutes the stages of Culture Adjustment that expats face when they relocate. Living and working abroad can be one of the most exiting periods of your life - but when unprepared for the phases expatriates experience during their foreign assignment - it may very well be an almost traumatic occurrence to the family. See how you make it a positive experience. Published on 26 Nov 2013 by The Living Institute.1. Honeymoon Phase
The first stage, or the honeymoon, is the immediate weeks on arrival in your new country where you are in the discovery
The Smart Expat Tech Infographic shows six core digital technologies for expats that help ease the daily hurdles of life when living overseas.
1) CALLING APPS: Contacting loved ones back home got significantly easier for Expats with the rise of Skype, which allows free video calls, voice calls and messaging from any devices that is internet connected. More recently WhatsApp, & Viber have also shown they give a great international free texting service and free voice calls within their networks as well. You and your contacts just need to download the free apps, allow your address book
There is a dream that if you live abroad you will be on an eternal holiday with sands and blue skies and no stress. Sadly the reality is a very similar reality to your daily life in whatever country you currently live. So yes, there are Expat Life Stressors that you need to learn to handle. Of course there are advantages, fun opportunities and amazing people you meet to. Reading many expat forums and blogs will give you a good feeling about what your particular location-to-be is like in terms of geography and culture. But there are also universal stressors that every relocated person and
Packing up your life to relocate overseas takes on a whole new meaning from packing a suitcase for your holidays. It starts months before you move as you start to de-clutter all your belongings, as every square metre costs and the new home may not be as large as your current one.
Different countries operate on different voltages as well, so many household appliances and electrical devices will not work in the new location. What is the weather like in the new location? A very different wardrobe may be required.
At the same time as de-cluttering it is also a good time to buy new things